爱上个木头

爱上了个木头
日子不难过
你依然能在说话时享受他所有的关注
你依然能享受他对你的独一无二
你依然能听到他偶尔的赞美
你依然能有个人在那里静静聆听你的牢骚

只是偶尔会觉得很累
想要的都必须一一告诉他
告诉了也不一定明白也不一定会做
日子渐渐越来越无趣单调
你知道等下会做什么
你也知道他等下不会做什么
你也清楚他一定又忘了什么
若想要点惊喜
你必须务必清楚明白的告诉他
好，甚至需要加点威胁装装生气
可是，这样还是惊喜吗？

然后，一切又开始了
不停叮咛自己
要感恩
是惊喜
虽然不是他自己想的
也是一份心意
对，这些应该算有心思吧
我应该要很开心才对
这样他才不会气馁吧

惊喜
不用花很多的钱
在普通的日子里
一个字条
一个小卡片
一个很有心思的短讯
一个糖果
一个精心策划的晚餐
一个突然想去的一日游
好，重点是，不用我去建议要求提醒甚至哀求的心意

All is well

当你厌倦了手上的事。。

当你困在手头上的难题。。
当你觉得被所有的事压得透不过气。。
尝试走出你的小小空间。。。

抬头望望常伴我们的蓝天白云。。。

Putrajaya Lakeside

也许你像我一样，会发现。。
天空那么大，我们那么渺小。。。
再天大的事，不过都是小小事一桩。。。

Don't ever worry for a single little thing ...
As everything is gonna be alright .....
Don't Worry, Be Happy


Hakuna Matata 

Take a deep breath, and move on

Never undermine your limit of courage

Sometimes you don’t realize how brave you can be until you come face to face with your greatest fear.

We all have our own secret.
It can be just a crush or can be a taboo throughout your life.



I believe that I would never ever tell anyone about it but keep as a whole life secret.

I hide all my fear. I hide all my tears. I hide all my trembles.

Until I came through an opportunity for healing my wound.



Why I revealed all my secrets and feelings without any body forcing me?
Well, reason remained unknown.

However, I appreciate the opportunity.
And, I would like to thank myself for the courage.

I escaped from the prison I built for myself.
When you overcome with your greatest fear and weaknesses, you might wonder why they made you in troubles.

Well, for me, the first thought that crossed my mind is
"Where did I get the courage to overcome this?"

"How did I ever live with this bloody disturbing issue throughout years?"

I can't tell you if I should ever step out to solve the problem.
But, I would say believe in yourself ... and be brave enough to overcome your fear. 
And MAY BE you will feel as refresh as I am

You would never know the limit of your courage.

Article recommendation: HOW TO BRING UP A SENSITIVE ISSUE WITH YOUR PARTNER?

This reminded me the basic rule in social life -- Always put yourself in others' shoe.
Sometimes, romantic relationship works as other relationships too.

it's definitely have times that your partner refuse to discuss the problems of both of you.
Question: How to bring up a sensitive issue with your partner?

SHort Answer provided by following article:
Invite your partner into a safe conversation with you about the issue.

"By understanding what is going on for our partners in their reluctance to address a topic, we can better empathize with them."


Three questions to ask yourself when your partner refuse to discuss:
Is he/she feeling safe to discuss about it?
Is he/she ready to discuss about it?
Is this how he/she used to solve problem?


Basically, just put yourself in his or her place, and see how it feels.
Then, you might realize the solution is just a piece of cake.

"Sometimes, as the saying goes, soft words can win hard hearts."

 http://johnbenloy.com/2013/04/sensitive-issue/

Check it out! It worth your time! 

Timeout: Not only children but adults

在喜歡的人事物上，偶爾會遇到瓶頸。。
有種失去熱情，失去興奮感，失去衝動的感覺…
有種再怎麼努力都原地踏步，要不就越來越糟的感覺。。。

如果你真的努力過，付出過，都於事無補。。
不妨，停一停，給自己一些喘息的空間。。
有時，學會從事物中抽離，讓生活來些不一樣的。。
再重新投入時，你也許會發現找回當初的熱情，當初的興奮，當初得成就感。。
然後感覺上事情又變得順利，又重新充滿了力量。。。。

記得，這不是放棄，只是來個timeout~
誰說只有敎小孩要執行timeout, 大人也需要timeout.
給自己一些機會喘息充電～

無論是工作，學業，生活，友情，甚至愛情。。
都允許自己來個timeout 吧～
離開業務，離開功課，離開家務，離開市區，離開源源不絕的應酬。。。。
*噓～不過別太招搖，讓別人有機可乘，這樣太危險了～*

没有能不能，只有要不要

定了个新年愿望，恢复义工生活。

查了些资料，报上了小名，期待着回复。。。

收到回邮的那一刻，迟疑了。。。
我，有时间吗
我，会路吗
我，负担得起车油费吗

我，难道又要以放弃收场吗
借口，是成功最大的敌人
而自己，是开始最大的敌人

没有能不能，可以不可以，只有想不想，要不要。。。

静一静，停一停，想一想，用心去感恩

日子久了，凡事都会变得自然，渐渐变得理所当然，再过不久就麻木了。

偶尔静下来，停一停，想一想，顿然发现其实自己拥有很多。
平凡的生活里，蕴藏了许多小小的惊喜，小小的幸福。

近来常埋怨，感情似乎淡了，心跳似乎正常了。
想尝试改变，却又累了。。。
但当静下心来，认真地想一想，才发现其实什么都没变，变的纯粹是贪婪的欲望。

一整天东奔西跑，为的只是路痴的我。
一个地区，绕了又绕，只为了确保我熟悉整个地理环境。
仅剩些钱旁身，也陪着嚷肚子饿的我吃好吃的。
倾盆大雨，把自己的拖鞋让给了我，自己赤脚走在河流似的柏油路。
俩都累垮了，却还是哄着闹脾气的我。

再忙碌，偶尔允许自己来个小休。
静一静，停一停，想一想，用心去感恩。